Thanks to NotAPunkRocker I decided to answer the question of Daily Post:
How do you define the term “soulmate,” and do you believe in the existence of such a person — for you?
It’s confession time!
Maybe the cliché that “it will come when you least expect it” is true after all. As you might remember, I didn’t end up going to Russia last year. It broke my heart, it killed my trust in administration, it ruined my summer. I genuinely feared staying in Belgium. And of course, that’s when the magic happened. It wasn’t by far as terrible as I thought it would be, staying in my own little country, and I met someone. Someone nice. Someone pretty. Someone I could talk with.
So – boom! – we got a kind of couple. Kind of, because we both wanted to go study abroad. Only a few months and we would go our own way. That was the deal. It was a good deal, I thought. Then I went to Poland, did several stupid things and realised that I had been so lucky to meet The Belgian One. You don’t always meet someone that respects you so much and that you can trust. Actually, that is a little miracle for me. I seem to attract guys that will let me down by ignoring me. But with The Belgian One, I felt at peace. It was all calm. I knew he wouldn’t do that to me. He’s one of the best guys I have ever met.
Too bad I was in Poland.
But then I returned. We saw each other again, and – boom! – it felt better than before. Something in me seemed to have changed, which made our Thing just better. Still not official, but better than before. This was so unexpected. Who could have foreseen that we would see each other again? I never thought it would happen, let alone as good as this. Although it also woke up a hell lot of fear in me, it was actually really, really good. Really calm, still.
Then I went to Russia, and – boom! – I suddenly discovered that my head is faithful. I don’t want to go and try to find another one. I don’t want to take the risk of doing stupid things again. But with my faithful heart, I don’t feel any pressure to seduce or attract people. I will not make the same mistakes again. Instead I’m looking forward to seeing The Belgian One again, and I think he wouldn’t mind seeing me again either.
I guess you could say I fell in love.
I’m not sure if I could call him a soul mate. Some of my friends seem to have more similar souls and minds than The Belgian One and I. We do seem to have something in common about our way of thinking, which I guess is more important than sharing interests and hobbies. No one knows what the future will bring though. It’s very well possible that he’ll meet someone else, someone who seems to be more of a soul mate to him. (That’s something I actually fear.) There’s also a chance that we’ll see each other again and it will be exactly the same, but a little better than before. Maybe we are soul mates. Maybe love does come when you least expect it. *fill in another cliché*
The heart is a complicated thing, moving in its own way. We will see what happens, but for now I enjoy the thought that somewhere, someone every now and then thinks of me and decided to talk to me.
Alissa
/ September 29, 2015Soul mate is one thing. A person I can coexist with is another. A soulmate as I see him would be someone to talk with when I am stuck with my writing at 3 AM, who understands the imporance of exactly the correct wording when describing a heroine’s voice. A person I need is someone who makes sure I don’t oversleep for work second time in a row and shows the best routes though the city to take by bike. The latter make wonderful friends, the former usually a bunch of problems.
(I am so mundane. Go me!)
No Blog Intended
/ September 29, 2015Hahaha 😀 Go you for sure! I get what you mean. But do you think it’s realistic, the idea of finding your soul mate?
Alissa
/ September 30, 2015Finding? Yes, totally.
Osyth
/ September 29, 2015I think the description ‘soul mate’ is sadly over-used but certainly when I eventually met my husband (not my first of those 😉 ) I immediately felt a calm and content that I had never felt before. I suddenly felt at comfortable with who I am and my world shrunk wrapped to co-exist with his. Is that a soul-mate? I really don’t know – all I know is that I don’t need look any further. I have found home.
No Blog Intended
/ September 30, 2015That sounds like a soul mate! I guess a lot of people are striving for exactly that. How great you actually found him 🙂
Osyth
/ September 30, 2015If I’d known he was there, I’d have waited even though I was actually 51 when we met!! I wish you the same, but much sooner 😀
No Blog Intended
/ September 30, 2015Thanks 😀 Let’s hope that works out well 😉
Osyth
/ September 30, 2015Keep the faith (whatever that means to you 😉 )
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/ September 30, 2015Oh, I do! Seeing what is happening right now, I’m actually very hopeful 😉
Osyth
/ September 30, 2015That has made me smile broadly 🙂
NotAPunkRocker
/ September 29, 2015❤
No Blog Intended
/ September 30, 2015🙂
The Indecisive Eejit
/ October 6, 2015That makes my heart happy 🙂 and my heart needed happy today.
No Blog Intended
/ October 6, 2015I’m happy I could do that! 🙂
editalozovska
/ October 6, 2015You are very right, that whole heart thing is just so complicated! I guess it only had one job – to pump blood, but nooooo – it has to have a complicated side to it 😉 😀
Edita
http://www.pret-a-reporter.co.uk/
No Blog Intended
/ October 6, 2015Hahaha YES, exactly! Life could have been so simple 😉
editalozovska
/ October 8, 2015It could have been! 😀
editalozovska
/ October 21, 2015All good at your end? We miss you ❤
No Blog Intended
/ October 28, 2015Ohh Edita 🙂 All is well! I just came back from a holiday, and life here is so good and busy that I don’t get to write a lot anymore. But all is very well!
How are you, my dear?
editalozovska
/ November 17, 2015All goodie good with me 🙂 I just hope you are having tons of fun 🙂
editalozovska
/ December 22, 2015Just a quick not to wish you 🎄 🎅 ⛄️ Happiest of holidays! 🙂 ❤
Edita
http://www.pret-a-reporter.co.uk/
zaychishka
/ February 16, 2016Where have you been?
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/ August 8, 2016Hey you! I disappeared to Russia, then come back to a thesis and more school stuff. In short, I didn’t have time for anything anymore…
How’s life with you? 🙂
El Guapo
/ January 25, 2019So, did the story have a happy ending?
And how are you, in whatever part of the world you’re in?